Goal Setting

This is not bad.

He says to dream.  And we have to dream.  But in the context of goal-setting, dreaming simply means to record your long-term goals.  You’ve got to have these.  You’ve got to have a vision for yourself.  This is not too difficult for most of us.  But it must be carved out, if not on paper externally then at least internally in our own minds. But what happens with experience?  What happens if we forget our vision what we want for ourselves as we give way to the day-to-day chores?  Do we risk losing our vision?  Maybe. So how do we keep our vision firmly yet flexibly in our minds?  Though I am not a big fan of Tony Robbins Live at one of his rah-rah seminars, I do like his concepts.  One of them is his Recticular Activating System.  What the heck is that?  It’s essentially a visual blueprint for your vision.

Rohn includes short-term goals.  He calls these confidence builders.  And we certainly need these.  Here are 100 of the best selling books on goal setting.  Find one or read a few and find one that dovetails with your vision.

I also liked what Rohn said, “Self-congratulation is a sign of maturity.  Seeking congratulation is a sign of immaturity.”  Can’t argue with that.

This sets the criteria for what your goals should be.  And this from a master goal-setter. Check these out:

  1. Write your goals down clearly and set a deadline for their accomplishment.
  2. Make plans to achieve your goals, schedule them and take action.
  3. Do something every day that moves you towards your goals and never give up.
  4. Review your goals often and visualize them as already achieved.

I do like this sample of goals:

1. Identify a market for the electronics you want to sell in the next 6 months
2. Create a niche shop  that sells a select number of in-demand electronics by October 2016
4. Grow your customer base to 3,000 customers per month, each spending an average of $200 by December 2017
5. Open a secondary location by March 2018

What I like about that list are the measurable specifics, like “grow your base to 3,000 customers per month . . . .”  That fires your imagination for other goals.  You need that fire or what others might call motivation.  Numbers bring that about.  But there are some tasks where you might not need as much motivation or conviction to the task, things like routine objectives, like writing 600 words of an explanatory essay on “How to Get Your Day Started.”  But even with these tasks, you can always pretend to have the motivation or the conviction and pretending will get you there.  Maybe not 100% or 85% but way beyond 50% and enough to help you complete the task.  Remember, goal-setting is not about setting goals, it’s mainly about accomplishments.  Goal-setting is a system that helps you become accomplished, that produces measurable accomplishments.  They have to be measurable because you need proof that what you’re doing has been a valuable use of time.  Without any measurement, people will doubt you.

Mark Ford [Mark Morgan Ford and Michael Masterson are all the same person] over at AWIA online puts the accomplishments of goal-setting on very practical terms:

To figure out your core values, Ford recommends imagining your funeral. I know it sounds a bit morbid, but it worked for me …

Ask yourself, “What will people say about me?”

Then ask, “What do I want them to say instead?”

Write down several statements for the major areas of your life – such as health, wealth, personal, and social values.

Here are some examples:

Health – “She had the best immune system and never got sick!” Or, “She went to yoga three times a week – and never missed a class!”

Wealth – “He discovered his passion – writing – and went on to make six figures every year from home!” Or, “He published 14 books in his life – three of them bestsellers!”

Personal – “She never complained.” Or, “She inspired me to take action toward achieving my dreams.”

Social Values – “She was the most generous friend anyone could have.” Or, “He always went out of his way to make people feel welcome.”

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ON CONFIDENCE
On confidence, Zig Ziglar (1926-2012) is terrific.

Confidence is going after Moby Dick in a rowboat and taking the tartar sauce with you.

ON MOTIVATION
On motivation, you could do no worse than Zig Ziglar

Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.

ZIG ZIGLAR
10 quotes from Zig Ziglar that have the power to completely change the direction of one’s life.

10) “Remember that failure is an event, not a person.”
9) “You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.”
8 ) “People often say motivation doesn’t last. Neither does bathing—that’s why we recommend it daily.”
7) “There has never been a statue erected to honor a critic.”
6) “People don’t buy for logical reasons. They buy for emotional reasons.”
5) “Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.”
4) “If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere.”
3) “A goal properly set is halfway reached.”
2) “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”
1) “If you can dream it, you can achieve it.”

This video on “The Dark Side of Goal-Setting” by JP Sears was funny.  Turns out the dude is a real life Life Coach. What he does is walk people through being other than who we are. Why do this? If we remain who we are, we don’t really become that which we set for ourselves in our goals. Therefore, according to this man’s philosophy, we must envision ourselves being and doing something else. This is why most people do not achieve their goals. Their comfortable enough in their own skin.

What’s next?

Apps for Goal-Setting:

I use Google Calendar.  It works for me.  Goal-setting workbooks are available, but their directional outline will be much weaker than anything that you can set directly for yourself.  Seeing your goals in a Google Calendar reminder is just that–a reminder.  You do have to connect and keep the motivation to each goal.  Do not lose focus of your motivation for each goal.  That is critical.

As to Positive Thinking, that is really the result of accomplishment.  You get one thing done, you dig it, and go to the next, riding that wave of accomplishment.  You’re optimistic about future prospects.  Get after it.